I’m getting to the point where some days, I don’t care if he contacts me or comes by, and it’s bc of him pushing me away. He has done/is doing ALL of the things mentioned in this article. I even watched the video about how to get him to want me/fall in love with me again, but it hasn’t worked since he isn’t around. Hopefully, all of this makes sense.
Two days ago he told me he feels that I love him more than he loves me, and that he has doubts about his feelings for me
Thank you for sharing your story with me…it was probably hard for you. I’m sorry that you’re going through this. As I see it, you are now separated, but you can’t seem to accept it because you love him so much. I understand.
He has not in a long relationship before, so I guess he compares our relationship with this other romances he’s got, and well
In this situation I would do what I would do as if I was separated, and this usually means to leave him alone.
I would try the 60-day no contact rule, to give him a chance to miss you and realize what he stands to lose for good, and a chance to remember all the good times instead of focusing on your problems.
Let him have what he wants. And what he wants right now is sadly not to be with you. Keep your dignity, your self respect, so he’ll have a chance to see what he stands to lose for good. Here’s my post about the 6-day no contact rule, I hope it helps:
He couldn’t stay faithful to his wife why expect him to stick with you . Face it you’ve now replaced his ex wife face it your the next ex . Do yourself a favour dump him move on and stay away from guys in relationships
Hi. I really need your opinion… I’ve been with my boyfriend for three years. We’ve been a happy couple, and I’ve always felt loved with him. It’s true that I am the one in the relationship who makes more sacrifices and is more comitted, but until a couple of days, he had always told me he loves and we have been making plans for the future (move in together and stuff). He told me that I felt in love earlier than him, because when we started, he was forgetting a woman he stopped seeing because she had a child (a kid, with other man you know). He told me that he had felt sometimes that our love was not the love that he felt with this other girl (and other girls, the “instant love”, more passionate)… I’m, as you can imagine, distraught. But you know…I’m so confused, because as I said, our relationship has been beautiful. He his so tender with me, he hugs me and doesn’t want to let go, kissses me all the time, when he tells me he loves me I can feel it, so…I’m so confused. Yesterday we conclude not to see each other for days, just to see how he feels. An hour and a half later, when I was in my house, he called telling me he’s sorry, that he knows I’m the one he loves, that he wanted to see me. I told him to wait for a week at least, and since then I’m here, waiting. We had a small text conversation, and again I found him a little cold… Here’s my opinion and I want you to give me yours: I think he loves me, we are happy, but it’s true I am the one that gives more. I think that the difference between each other is that we love each other differently: I love him more romantically, more idealistic in a way, and he loves me more prudently. It’s true I’ve felt once in a while “tense” moments, but are a few, and well, we’ve been three years together, and the good moments are countless. ..you can’t compare. Maybe he didn’t felt the instant attraction he felt with others, but he found what is true love with me (and because of that, we have been so happy). Yes, he wasn’t so interseted in me in the begining, and maybe the problem is that he has always felt a little bit of blame for not be so invested in the begining, but who cares about how we started? ?? I’m so confused and sad. Please give me your opinion. Thank you.